But failure can feel like defeat, especially when you are
new to something such as owning your own business. I am confident in my skills,
they have paid the bills for the last 20 + years in addition to all the
accolades. So why when I get a client lead, I feel as though I go into hibernation
before I can work up the nerve to respond? Where do you go for the insight to
know that you got this?
Confidence sells. Stop Wondering if you’re good enough, Know you are
I am the most forward person, I get things done, so where does that confidence come from that is different from the #confidence for my business?
I am Wonder Woman in my own Mind, I have tackled teen pregnancy, single parenthood, mental illness, being a college dropout all while holding down a steady job. I have the skills to pay the bills, I know this. There is not a MS Word, Adobe Form, Canva Graphic, Social Media Scheduler, WordPress Blog that I can’t manage, so what is my hold up? I am absolutely scared out of my mind to #fail.
I am the overachiever you all heard about, no matter the hurdle in my life, I jumped it and kept going. I am always looking for ways to increase my knowledge, education, ability to overachieve just because it’s a part of who I am. I take pride in being an overachiever, I expect greatness. Train your child from infancy, my parents instilled in me this need to be the best, and I still strive for that even though they don’t really expect it anymore.
So what am I doing? I have a business mentor, I am taking classes, I am in an apprenticeship, I still read incessantly, all while working my 9-5. So what more can I do? My next step is to talk to my PDoc, while I don’t want pills for everything, maybe a medication can assist until such time as my comfort level increases and its no longer an source of anxiety. I am also going to talk to a mentor in regards to Mindset Strategy coaching. In addition to trying meditation.
What strategies do you use to combat business related anxiety?
At the end of the day, life is about being happy being who you are, and I feel like we are so blessed to have the support system and the best family to really just support each other no matter what we’re going through.
Family is a unique gift that needs to be appreciated and treasured, even when they’re driving you crazy. As much as they make you mad, interrupt you, annoy you, curse at you, try to control you, these are the people who know you the best and who love you.
I lucked out and got a great set of people, especially those that I had the privilege of raising. And although back when you couldn’t have told me it would be this great, I am glad we stuck it out.
I wouldn’t trade them for the world, I am who I am and am allowed to grow because of their love and support.
And it’s another week in the books. I am grateful to do what I love at my 9-5 and my own business. But at what cost?
My days looks like this:
Get up at 6 am
Drop Kid off at 7:15 pm
Work 7:30-3:30 pm
Pick up Kid 3:45 pm
Take Kid to work 4:30 pm
Drive Home 5 pm
Pick Up Kid from Work 9:30pm
Drive Home 10pm
Midnight Sleep maybe
The kid is a senior in high school, has a great job and finds the time to hang with friends. I am always sort of available but am I missing out? Those are the questions, I as a parent ask myself every day while on this journey. I don’t want to miss a minute of the important or even the non-important stuff in her life. I am proud that she took the initiative to get a job, her senior year, and she has not complained not once about saving and paying bills. I am trying to show her rather than tell her how to be a responsible adult. I hope that she sees my sacrifice, tenacity, and persistence in working a full time job and running this business and is grateful as well as prepared to do the same for what she wants in life.
It’s #WisdomWednesday, so I am going to share some of my wisdom gained during my journey to establish my Virtual Assistant Business. Hopefully it helps others who may be thinking of starting their own business.
The Virtual Assistant Industry is booming right now, with so many leaving the corporate rat race to embark on their own business endeavors.
“According to Tractica predictions, active customers of Virtual Assistance services will elevate from 390 million back in 2015 to 1.8 billion by 2021’s closure, worldwide.”
Don’t tell me how talented you are, Tell me how hard you work
Today is my daughter’s 24th birthday, and on this day, Positive Thinking Day, I think on how positively blessed I am.
To have my daughter reach such a milestone, to be starting something I love, to have been stable for the last 6 years, to have a job I love, a support system that is out of this world. I am just beyond blessed. Starting this business was a fly by the seat of my pants idea, but I am actually doing it. I believed therefore I achieved.
I am talented, no joke, actually talented in a lot of areas. I am fortunate that my talents have always led me in a good direction and blessed me to always move onward and upward. I have several abilities that allow me to follow the path I am on. My ability to be creative, honest, and thoughtful allow me to consistently make strides in this journey I am on. In the past nine months:
You make me very proud to be your mother. I know that our relationship is not perfect, but I love that it’s strong and real.I love you, sweetheart.
My girl right here is 24 today, I can’t believe I have a daughter that old, won’t say grown because she is of the mindset that she has not grown up yet. So many firsts together, so many memories, but I can say this, I have one of the sweetest, kindest, big hearted human beings on the planet, and I did that. (With a little help from Carlton). That is one of the best things a mother could ask for, to know that they raised a person who is good. Now if we could get you to work on some things your momma wants for you, lol.
I want to shield you from the bad experiences, but going through them is the only way you can learn the real meaning of living. I know that your heart is in the right place, and you will overcome them all. Just don’t forget you have me, cheering you on.
I have been told that I am very knowledgeable with the Microsoft Office and G-Suite software’s, that’s the Geek in me, I love me some software. So I decided for #TIPTuesday, I will post helpful shortcuts or tidbits to assist the average user.
Microsoft Office is a family of client software, server software, and services. Initially a marketing term for an office suite (bundled set of productivity applications), Microsoft Office includes Word, Excel, PowerPoint, and Outlook.
I have been told that I am very knowledgeable with the Microsoft Office and G-Suite software’s, that’s the Geek in me, I love me some software. So I decided that for the next two #TIPTuesdays, I will post helpful shortcuts or tidbits to assist the average user.
G Suite is a brand of cloud computing, productivity and collaboration tools, software and products.
“Chase the vision, not the money, the money will end up following you.” — Tony Hsieh, CEO of Zappos
I found this quote to be the epitome of my business state right now. I am chasing my vision, being my own Angel Investor for this time period. Investing in myself. Having the experiences that I am right now seems to be more important in the long range goal.
I can see now that I was not ready, although I have the knowledge to move forward, I didn’t have the experience in this arena. I was doomed to fall on my face. And I can’t allow that, not me Mrs. Perfectionista!
I’ve volunteered and gotten an internship in the last week, so needless to say life is busy. With Carpool, Work, The Business, and the new additions to my schedule, self care and stability are my main focus. But it doesn’t feel like a burden or work. I literally created content all weekend, with little sleep and today I am back at work like it was nothing. I am proud of myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and trying new things. I am grateful for the resources and support that I have found in this journey as well. Never in a million years would I have thought that I could be a part of something that is so positive and empowering.