Random Musings (Blog)

All over the place….but still focused

Today seems hard, because I forgot to take my meds and have drank too much coffee, but while my focus seems off because of my ADHD diagnosis, I am more focused than ever. I have completed the rebranding of Mrs. Whittaker-Woody V A Services to KISS Virtual Services. I have a clarity of where I want to take the business and a drive to know I can do this. My personal life is in a good place, as well as my kid being on track to get her goals accomplished this June and beyond.

Just like a little kid, I am sitting her with baited breath as I wait until the clock strikes so I can leave and go be a kid at the movies with the family. Life is good although things are hard.

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. 
–Joseph Campbell

Beyond Blessed

Oh, I forgot to mention that I got my FIRST CLIENT!!!!!

Yep, a friend/associate that I am in the company of on alot of occasions saw my potential and reached out to make me her Virtual Assistant. I am beyond blessed that my business dreams are starting to take hold. Dedication has been easy for me because I honestly have a love for all that I am doing but it has caused some ruffled feathers with the kid, let me say. But the combination of dreams, dedication, and prayer have given me a great start to my next chapter in this journey.

And then it was over!

Today I faced a major fear, In Person Networking. I worked on prepping for the last week,

  • getting new brochures,
  • business cards,
  • practicing my Elevator Pitch,
  • picking the right outfit,
  • deciding on what to do with my hair,
  • what shoes to wear

And then in the moment, the Elevator Pitch eluded me, my feet hurt, I had a hot flash, I was too hot in my coat, but I conquered the task. I didn’t flake out and just not go, I went and I initiated contact with other vendors, I deployed my plan of action and spoke to who I came to see. 

Virtual Assistant should see an uptick in Google tonight, as nobody is checking for us as resources to their businesses.

I did Good and then it was over, but I left a mark for sure.


Success is relative. I am a success. Although I have been treading water in my business due to confidence issues, I am still a success for just starting. I am a success in raising two daughters, who although not the perfect childhood can both attest that they wanted for nothing in any arena that I had control over. I am a success in my career, winning awards, being innovative, mentoring and being valued. Who could ask for more at a place of employment? I am a success for just being ME! Many people struggle with knowing who they are, who they want to be, and where they are going in life. I have been and am blessed.

I never dreamed of this lifestyle and it has been a labor of love, but I am here and I am not going anywhere. Its the all or nothing for me from here on out.

Who Are You Nakia???

Who Are You Nakia?

I don’ t know these days but I have been struggling with “What have I done” Syndrome. I started this business without a clue as to what I am doing, (I know what I am doing Services wise, lol).  I was inundated with information, learning, and systems that I had never heard of let alone knew how to implement and use. 

Facebook Groups abound, I was a member of about 20 Groups related to Virtual Assisting. All were helpful but very few provided the substance needed to take me from “deer in headlights” to “Hi I’m Mrs. Whittaker-Woody Virtual Assistant Services”.

I eventually found a set of resources, be it group, coach, mentor, sisters that has enable me to finally be able to move forward so that I can work on being successful. I know who I am.

I have struggled with my online persona, with multiple people lamenting on how I need to change my logo. But I held out because it was a first for me, I created that logo you see on all my branding. It represents me, the Geek who loves her PC and Desktop Publishing. And its has my 2-W’s which most people assume is my Wonder Woman symbol, but it actually stands for my last name. I know that when you see that bright Pink Computer with the 2-WW’s, that when you see me, I am Nakia Whittaker-Woody, proud Owner of Mrs. Whittaker-Woody V A Services.

I am apologetically me, I am honest to a fault, but I can and will work my butt off to present quality service and an experience for any clients I may have.

That is who I am. 

What do you do?

Failure is delay, not defeat

Denis Waitley

But failure can feel like defeat, especially when you are new to something such as owning your own business. I am confident in my skills, they have paid the bills for the last 20 + years in addition to all the accolades. So why when I get a client lead, I feel as though I go into hibernation before I can work up the nerve to respond? Where do you go for the insight to know that you got this?

Confidence sells. Stop Wondering if you’re good enough, Know you are

Simon Black

I am the most forward person, I get things done, so where does that confidence come from that is different from the #confidence for my business?
I am Wonder Woman in my own Mind, I have tackled teen pregnancy, single parenthood, mental illness, being a college dropout all while holding down a steady job. I have the skills to pay the bills, I know this. There is not a MS Word, Adobe Form, Canva Graphic, Social Media Scheduler, WordPress Blog that I can’t manage, so what is my hold up? I am absolutely scared out of my mind to #fail.

I am the overachiever you all heard about, no matter the hurdle in my life, I jumped it and kept going. I am always looking for ways to increase my knowledge, education, ability to overachieve just because it’s a part of who I am. I take pride in being an overachiever, I expect greatness. Train your child from infancy, my parents instilled in me this need to be the best, and I still strive for that even though they don’t really expect it anymore.

So what am I doing? I have a business mentor, I am taking classes, I am in an apprenticeship, I still read incessantly, all while working my 9-5. So what more can I do? My next step is to talk to my PDoc, while I don’t want pills for everything, maybe a medication can assist until such time as my comfort level increases and its no longer an source of anxiety. I am also going to talk to a mentor in regards to Mindset Strategy coaching. In addition to trying meditation.

What strategies do you use to combat business related anxiety?

Inquiring Minds Want to Know?


At the end of the day, life is about being happy being who you are, and I feel like we are so blessed to have the support system and the best family to really just support each other no matter what we’re going through.

Kim Kardashian

Family is a unique gift that needs to be appreciated and treasured, even when they’re driving you crazy. As much as they make you mad, interrupt you, annoy you, curse at you, try to control you, these are the people who know you the best and who love you.

 Jenna Morasca

I lucked out and got a great set of people, especially those that I had the privilege of raising. And although back when you couldn’t have told me it would be this great, I am glad we stuck it out. 

I wouldn’t trade them for the world, I am who I am and am allowed to grow because of their love and support.

And another one…..

And it’s another week in the books. I am grateful to do what I love at my 9-5 and my own business. But at what cost? 

My days looks like this:

  • Get up at 6 am
  • Drop Kid off at 7:15 pm
  • Work 7:30-3:30 pm
  • Pick up Kid 3:45 pm
  • Take Kid to work 4:30 pm
  • Drive Home 5 pm
  • Work 
  • Pick Up Kid from Work 9:30pm
  • Drive Home 10pm
  • Work
  • Midnight Sleep maybe

The kid is a senior in high school, has a great job and finds the time to hang with friends. I am always sort of available but am I missing out? Those are the questions, I as a parent ask myself every day while on this journey. I don’t want to miss a minute of the important or even the non-important stuff in her life. I am proud that she took the initiative to get a job, her senior year, and she has not complained not once about saving and paying bills. I am trying to show her rather than tell her how to be a responsible adult. I hope that she sees my sacrifice, tenacity, and persistence in working a full time job and running this business and is grateful as well as prepared to do the same for what she wants in life.

That’s why I am Wonder Woman in my OWN MIND!


It’s #WisdomWednesday, so I am going to share some of my wisdom gained during my journey to establish my Virtual Assistant Business. Hopefully it helps others who may be thinking of starting their own business.

The Virtual Assistant Industry is booming right now, with so many leaving the corporate rat race to embark on their own business endeavors.

“According to Tractica predictions, active customers of Virtual Assistance services will elevate from 390 million back in 2015 to 1.8 billion by 2021’s closure, worldwide.”


So the outlook is Amazing for any potential entrepreneurs. 

Some things that I wish I knew before jumping out the gate:

  • The various Software programs used mostly by VA’s
  • Who My Ideal Client would be so I could market to and locate them
  • How much information there is to be gained, it can be overwhelming
  • Marketing and Social Media Marketing especially
  • That a Business Coach and Support System, would be instrumental
  • That Clients could be hard to find, but don’t give up
  • Don’t measure your success by that of others, your time will come
  • That I don’t need to spend unnecessary money, take my time and evaluate what I actually need

Mindset is a must

Don’t tell me how talented you are, Tell me how hard you work


Today is my daughter’s 24th birthday, and on this day, Positive Thinking Day, I think on how positively blessed I am.

To have my daughter reach such a milestone, to be starting something I love, to have been stable for the last 6 years, to have a job I love, a support system that is out of this world. I am just beyond blessed. Starting this business was a fly by the seat of my pants idea, but I am actually doing it. I believed therefore I achieved.

I am talented, no joke, actually talented in a lot of areas. I am fortunate that my talents have always led me in a good direction and blessed me to always move onward and upward. I have several abilities that allow me to follow the path I am on. My ability to be creative, honest, and thoughtful allow me to consistently make strides in this journey I am on. In the past nine months:

  • I have been recognized in my professional career
  • I started my business.
  • I revived this blog.
  • Learned how to use a graphics software. 
  • Gained a closer relationship with my mom
  • Found some Sisters

Life is good. Mindset is everything.